I’ve been stewing on this post for a while now. I had an amazing opportunity to visit what feels like my second blogging home of Houston a couple of weeks ago, and I was able to have dinner with some of my favorite bloggers that I’ve followed for years. I’m in awe of how I can appreciate and support so many amazing women who are all doing their own thing in their own city. Yet, I come home and I feel like I’m the odd ball out.
I’ve been blogging for a long time. Way too long. I joke with a friend we’re like the part of the OG Mom Bloggers of St. Louis. I’ve been around the block and I’ve watched how it has all changed. It’s all about sponsorship now, and you know I don’t always love playing the game. This year, I’ve said yes to less, became pickier and have been just as successful. I feel like I’ve fallen into a strange category because I don’t fit that mold of what today’s “blogger” looks like.
- I’m older.
- I only have 1 child by choice.
- I’m plus size.
Those may be my insecurities popping out, but I still feel like the odd ball out. I’ve never felt like I have fit anywhere I’ve been. Anxiety gets the best of me. But then there are times, I go to an event and someone was there to talk to me! Me!! Then I start to realize that maybe all those insecurities are in my head and I should be confident and grateful for the amazing people God has put in my path. I’m reminded that my puzzle pieces don’t fit the mold in my head, but they fit someone’s mold and I’m brightening their day with positivity and joy. I have to remind myself that my actions are impacting others in a good way, even when I don’t see the good.
Who misses the days of following a blog because you were genuinely interested in what they had to say or the activities they did? I know, some of my favorite bloggers still are very minimal on their product push, and I strive to be like that. I want to build community, I want to build relationships off of the internet. I want to bring like minded moms together who feel the same as I do. I want moms who don’t fit the cookie cutter stereo types to come together and have a common love of being a mom and being social.
First and foremost before I’m a blogger, I’m a mom. My priority in life is to make sure my daughter is learning, growing and thriving and on her way to being a strong confident little lady. All of the opportunities with blogging are always secondary to that. I try to make both things work, but you know what sometimes, family has to come first. We’ve been so blessed by this community and will continue to share what we love and help other moms.
So where am I going with my random rant today. If no one has told you today, you’re an amazing mom, you were picked for a reason to raise your beautiful babies. Know you’re not the only one if feel you feel alone or anxious. This space is for you. I like following moms who are like me too, so I’m glad you’re along for the journey. So let’s go back to basic, we’ll hang out with our messy kids, talk about silliness and have community. Back to basics, without the drama, the stress and anxiety of making mom friends.
Now wouldn’t that be nice?